Many of us suffered less than desirable childhoods resulting in needs that were not met growing up. We often spend the rest of our lives unconsiously attempting to get these needs met through friends, romantic partners, and family members. We play out the same pattern over and over and find ourselves miserable and resentful.
Read MoreAnxiety and an overactive mind feel overwhelming and can drive misery. The greatest trick the mind ever played was convincing us it was in control, and that what it says, goes. That we have no choice but to do what our chaotic minds say.
Read MoreIn alcoholic family systems, it is typically the case that the black sheep of the family is the healthiest in the family system. It is also typically the case that the black sheep of the family believes they are the most mentally ill. Why is this?
Read MorePeople pleasing often develops as a response when children feel they must caretake the adults around them in order to be loved. As we grow, it becomes difficult to voice our true feelings because love has become attached to always being pleasing and easy to others.
Read MoreIf we want children to feel secure in the world and grow into independent, courageous, and curious adults, it is important that adults contain their own anxieties and pull back from constant monitoring and overprotective, anxious parenting. When we step back and do not do everything for children, it is amazing how quickly they grow curious and try things on their own! Over time, this builds confidence and character as children begin to understand what they need to do to accomplish things in the world.
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